Few people know about the phenomenon of Findom. It’s not completely new, but has been steadily rising over the past few years as we become increasingly involved in the online world.

Findom stands for financial domination. Simply put, men involved in findom send expensive gifts, give regular sums of money (the amount is set by the woman) or even allow the unknown woman to have complete control over his finances. There is no sexual exchange and in the majority of cases the two never meet. Occasionally men ask their domme to blackmail them, all however, submit in the relationship and expect to be spoken to harshly and insulted. They are ‘cash pigs’ to the women in the industry.

image of man involved in findom

Why would anyone agree to hand over their finances to a stranger?

There are many reasons men become involved in the findom world. Some say the thrill of having a woman demand money and expensive things can be addictive, others that they enter a place where they can forget their worries during an exchange. Whatever it looks like on the surface, the following are a list of just some of the underlying causes of this problem:

– Low self worth

– Self destructive behaviour

– Severe stress and overwhelm

– Need to escape life

– Lack of intimacy in life

– Difficulty maintaining a one-to-one relationship with a woman

– Need for a chemical ‘emotional’ high

The exchange is about power and control, a push-pull relationship in which the rich or powerful man gives up his power to the woman, who is free to demand whatever she desires. You may think the domme can never have more power than the man is willing to give her, but the big problems come with addiction when the man can no longer control what power he is handing over, compelled to give more and more. The devastation this creates in his life includes:

– addiction

– financial ruin

– increasing debt levels

– loss of property

– end of marriage/relationship

– anxiety

– psychological damage

– physical harm (some men perform self-torture tasks during the exchange)

Findom is no laughing matter. With the number of women advertising these services online on the increase, more men are becoming involved. If you are engaged in findom, or concerned about it, call us now for help on 01227 903 503